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Lubrication:
Unlike the vagina or the mouth, the anus and rectum don't have a built – in source of
lubrication. Even worse, the rectum is designed to absorb liquids. So, you've got to
provide your own lube, and lots of it. The rule of thumb is to use as much as you think
you need, and then use more. If you're using condoms , be sure to use a water – based
lubricant [e.g. KY Jelly, ForPlay (stocked by DISA Health Care)]
Patience:
Go slowly and follow the lead of the person being penetrated. You may want to start with
a finger first, to get the anus used to something smaller.
If the person being penetrated is relatively inexperienced at this, take the pressure off by
giving up on goals and concentrating more on enjoying the process. In other words, don't
think of how far you want to go with this project ("Oh boy, it's going to feel good when
I'm inside") but rather focus on the journey ("Hey this is fun!") Like so many things
worth doing, it may take several tries before you're both happy with it.
Protection:
Anal sex is one of the highest – risk activities for transmitting HIV. But other Sexually
transmitted diseases (STD's) can be spread through anal sex as well. So, I strongly
recommend using condoms during anal sex. The person doing the penetrating should also
wash his hands and penis afterwards, to avoid spreading other diseases such as Hepatitis.
For more information:
The bible of anal sex: Anal pleasure and Health, by Dr Jack Morin (Down There Press, 1986)
The women's bible: The ultimate guide to anal sex for women, by Tristan Taormino (Cleis Press, 1998)
10 Rules of Anal sex: ( Jack Morin)
Anal eroticism is surrounded by a powerful taboo. Yet millions of men and women are
experimenting with anal sex. The anus, richly endowed with nerve endings and
interconnected with the main pelvic muscles, is the closest erogenous neighbour of the
genitals and contracts rhythmically during orgasm. In 1949, Kinsey stated that the anal
area had erotic significance for about half of the population. In a survey of 100,000
Playboy readers, 47% of the men and 61% of the women admitted having tried anal
intercourse. Yet the anal taboo inhibits most people from thinking, talking and learning
about the sexual use of the anus. Listed here are the ten things most men and women still
do not know about anal sex.
1: Anal intercourse is the least frequently practiced form of anal sex:
There are many ways to enjoy the anus erotically. The most common techniques include
touching the anus erotically. The most common techniques include touching the anal
opening with a finger while masturbating or stimulating a partner's anus during intercourse or oral sex.
Some people enjoy the sensation of fingers – their own or a lover's – inserted into their
anal opening and gently rotated. Others may prefer the insertion of a dildo or vibrator
beyond the anal opening and short anal canal into the larger rectum. Many men, including
heterosexuals, favour this form of penetration.Oral-anal lovemaking is popularly known as rimming. The very idea disgusts some people. Others enjoy performing it or allowing themselves to be probed in this special way.
2: Anal stimulation, including intercourse, isn't painful if done properly:
The belief that anal stimulation, especially intercourse, has to hurt is a persistent and
dangerous myth. Just as pain anywhere in the body indicates that something is wrong, so
is the same true of the anal area. With its high concentrations of nerve endings, the anus
can produce extreme agony when it is mistreated. Yet it can also be a source of great
pleasure.
When a finger, object or penis is introduced into the anus, the anal muscles go into
spasm, as if fighting off invasion. Pain will result if the partners do not wait for these
muscles to relax. Under sufficient stress they will eventually collapse and the pain
subside, unless further damage is done. But any "pleasure" afforded from this kind of
activity derives mostly from the absence of discomfort.
Maximum anal pleasure requires the elimination of all pain or physical trauma from the
anal experience. Self-protection on the part of the passive partner involves being ready to
say "no" until he or she is ready to proceed. Readiness is a combination of physical
relaxation, usually helped along by plenty of leisurely anal touching and desire.
Occasionally the anal muscles are relaxed, but the passive partner is still not in the mood.
Stimulation should mount only in proportion to the degree of receptivity.
3: Anal sex can be enjoyed even if it has been consistently uncomfortable in the past
Sufficient desire alone does not necessarily guarantee pleasurable sex. Nor is an
uncomfortable previous experience always the reason for a lack of interest in or desire for
anal sex.
Chronic anal tension is the most common cause of anal discomfort during sex. Hemorrhoids and constipation are usually a sign of this condition. Tension can be relieved by touching the anus and becoming familiar with it. An ideal time to explore the anal opening is while taking a shower or bath. Deep breathing also affects the anal muscles. Tensing the anus and then letting go is another way of learning to relax it. Anyone who enjoys masturbation might want to experiment with some form of anal stimulation, though he or she should stop if any discomfort occurs.
For many people the turning point in anal sex is when they allow a partner to massage the
anus with the understanding that intercourse will not be attempted. Then the recipient of
anal caresses can concentrate solely on the pleasure this erogenous zone is capable of
generating.
4: Two muscle rings called sphincters surround the anal opening. Each functions
independently
5: Anal stimulation provides many kinds of pleasure.
6: Anal stimulation can lead to orgasm
7: Diet contributes to the enjoyment of anal sex
8: Different rules of hygiene apply to the vagina and rectum.
9: Anal intercourse is not necessarily a form of dominance and submission
10: Anal sex can be perfectly safe, even beneficial |
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