WHAT IF SHE DOES NOT WANT TO KISS?

That simply means she does not want to be kissed! Try again a few dates later. It means she is not comfortable having you ram your tongue down her throat…yet. What you can do is hug. The perfect hug involves you wrapping your arms around her and swaying from side to side, with her head against your chest. After you give her a hug, look her in the eyes while remaining embraced. Stare into her eyes for a moment as you smile sweetly (sheepishly?).

If she pulls back, let her go, but keep smiling. If she doesn't, then just hold her. If she looks down at your mouth, or closes her eyes, this means she's expecting a kiss. You can then proceed to kiss her in the way mentioned in the earlier chapters.

WE BOTH WEAR GLASSES. IS THIS A PROBLEM?

Yes and no. From experience, spectacles do not get in the way very much at all. If only one party is wearing glasses, it will hardly affect the kissing. Even if both are wearing glasses, kissing can still be carried out rather easily. If you are concerned about it, try this. It can also be used to see if she is ready for kissing. Reach over and gently take off her glasses, saying softly, "I'd like to kiss you". If she says no, then she’s not ready so you will just have to be content with hugging.

I'M SHORTER THAN HER

Get a stepladder. Just joking. Well, (and those of you who date women in the WNBA, pay attention now) there is nothing wrong in getting her to bend down and kiss you (the way men kiss shorter women). If she is more than 2 feet taller than you, a chair would be useful.

BAD BREATH

If you feel a funny taste in your mouth or suspect that you have halitosis (bad breath), do not even start to kiss. If you are in the middle of a kissing session and your partner has bad breath, stop and offer her a breath mint. Both of you will feel much better after that. If you do not have a breath mint with you, politely find a way to end the kissing session without hurting her feelings.

REMINDER

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